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The Struggle Is Real…


It doesn’t matter which side you relate to, body image is a struggle.

To the Woman Who Hates Her Body:

Stop criticizing yourself for the body image that you see in the mirror. You are beautiful and it’s time to learn to love your body.

If you could just see yourself in all of your glory, you’d know that your body image has been distorted.

Learning that It’s….

“Not Okay” to Love Your Body Started Young!

You were conditioned from a young age to have a certain opinion on what is acceptable for a woman and how you need to look. You played with the disproportionate barbie doll, and thumbed through the digitally altered, highly made over magazine covers.

It taught you that you are not good enough the way you are.

But it didn’t start there…

Other people have reinforced that message that you shouldn’t love your body. That it’s too big for a bathing suit unless you do that crash diet. Some have said it directly; others taught you this in action.

It started at home. It continued at school. No one even seemed to realize it.

You might have heard the obvious put downs from family…

The “girl, you’ve gained some weight, haven’t you?” or heard someone laughing at your cousin because her legs “jiggled” when she walked.

*You learned it in the reminder that you needed to work for that “

*You saw it when your mom stood in front of the mirror and groaned at the image staring back at her.. Or the terrible things she said about her own body while she was getting ready to take you to the pool.•••She didn’t love her body, either.

*You heard it from your friends who were laughing about the larger woman wearing shorts that were “too short for someone so fat.”

You thought those experiences were no big deal but you were like a sponge who soaked up the lesson that to be acceptable, you can’t look like that….

Looking like a real woman means you’re a failure.

*You learned that fat is shameful and skinny is beautiful. Fat is worthless and skinny is all that matters. That you can only love your body if it’s under a certain size.l

*And Now You’re “Unintentionally”Teaching Your Own Daughers the Same Message…

It breaks my heart to hear your pain and to know that as you stand in the mirror, averting your eyes and avoiding pictures, now your daughter watches the same way you once did.

*People have justified the glorification of skinny, pretending it’s all about health.

*Pretending that it’s not okay to love your body if you are larger than “acceptable.” They say it’s not acceptable because it’s unhealthy.

….But some part of you noticed that what’s considered an “acceptable body image” is anorexic…And you noticed that if it was truly about health, people would care about that fact.

No, it’s not about health. It’s about skinny!

…And you’ve learned that unless you are skinny, you cannot love your body. That a “positive body image,” for the average woman, is “unhealthy” and “pathetic.”

Love Your Body Anyway!!

I have a message for you. One that I pray will sink in, will give you hope, empower you and strengthen you in your fight to celebrate and love your body. I hope that it gives you strength to teach your children a different story about the value of their own bodies.

1. The standard for what body type is “acceptable” will change flavor a hundred more times in your lifetime.

2.The pressure will always be thrown on you to “measure up.” It will be up to you to fight it.

And while that is not okay, it’s the current reality. We can make fundamental changes in our culture, but that takes time, and you deserve to love your body now.

3. You are both uniquely your own lovely person and also just like everyone else.

4. You are beautiful in your own way and the struggles that you have with loving your body are part of our common humanity.

5. Teach Your Daughter to Love her Body!!

*It’s time you stop believing these ridiculous ideas that the number on the scale somehow measures your worth. *You can let go of standards that don’t serve you–that aren’t healthy for you. *You can teach your daughters to do the same.

6. Your weight doen’t change your beauty one way or the other. That number on the scale is completely irrelevant to your worth as a person and your value in this world.

****It’s time to stop treating it as if it’s the most important measure of who you are.

You are beautiful as you are.

And worthy just as you are.

You are smart, kind, funny, caring, capable, lovely, charming, flat out kick ass…just as you are.

*Teach her by your example. Let her see you love your body, care for and treat it well.

*Don’t show her that starving your body is somehow a good thing.

*Teach her that her body is strong and capable and acceptable, just like yours.

The Work is Hard, but it is Worth Doing

What a remarkable gift to give yourself!

I know that shifting your beliefs about your body is hard work, but it must be done.

It is time to screw the standards of beauty imposed on you and decide for yourself that you are beautiful.

It’s time to love your body. You deserve your own.

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